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Parents vs tattoos –

Posted in Tattoo Designs on Jul 12, 2017

The author and her ink

When I started getting tattooed, my brother expected World War III to erupt. After all, when he came home wearing his first tattoo, our mother cried her eyes out and our grandmother followed him around, quoting verses from the Bible.

However, there was a big differencehe was just 17 when he showed up with a big tribal tramp stamp. I was 35 when I got two tiny tattoos.

So, while he suffered the backlash of waterworks and the Old Testament, all I got was silence.

But things changed when my tattoos multiplied. And multiply they did. (Its true what they say: Once you start, its hard to stop.)

World War III didnt exactly erupt at home, but there were tears, arguments and middle-of-the-night phone calls. But at least there was no viral video.

Siblings Joyce and Paolo Hernandez pranked their mother by pretending Paolo had gotten his arm tattooed. Their furious mom, who they fondly refer to as Momzilla, reacted strongly, not knowing that her children were shooting the whole thing.

Luko-luko tong si Paolo nagiging demonyo ka na! she scolded her son while he tried to stifle his laughter. Ang pangit-pangit ha! Di ka na nagsisimba, nagpapa-tattoo ka pa! Binababoy mo katawan mo ha! Diyos ko po, Panginoon ko, demonyo na tong anak kong ito! Sinabi ko naman sa kanya wag magpa-tattoo. Wala na to sa bait Loko to ah, para kang preso!

The video was shared over 38,000 times on Facebook.

But tattoos are no longer stereotyped or limited to certain groups of people.

Its really crossed over into every class, age, gender and background, tattoo artist Michelle Myles said in an interview with The Atlantic.

Celina Fernandez gets tattooed at home.

As early as 2001, Sink & Ink Magazine editor Bob Baxter had written about the seemingly unstoppable popularity of tattooing.

Tattoos now belong to everyone and every group, wrote Jean Paul-Cluzel, president of Frances Runion Des Muses Nationaux and the Grand Palais, in The Tattoorialists book Tattoo Street Style.

This ancient art, which has roots in cultures all over the world, has become so widespread that some people complain that its now too mainstream.

But not for parents. And not just Filipino parents.

Tess Morgan (not her real name) tried to come to terms with her sons tattoo in an essay she penned for The Guardian. She couldnt speak to him for three days after she found out about his ink, calling it self-mutilation and desecration.

She wrote: I keep thinking of his skin, his precious skin, inked like a pig carcass Its the permanence that makes me weep I know Im being completely unreasonable. This level of grief is absurd. Hes not dying, he hasnt killed anyone, he hasnt volunteered to fight on behalf of a military dictatorship. But I feel as though a knife is twisting in my guts.

It doesnt seem to matter whether their kids are 18 or 38a lot of parents feel slighted by their kids decision to get tattooed.

Zaza, a 30-year-old chef, has tattoos behind her ear and on her wrists. My dad wants to erase it using sandpaper. My mom thinks dinudumihan ko yung sarili ko.

While some are open about their tattoos, some choose to hide them from their folks to avoid confrontation.

Holly, a 30-year-old human resources head, has two tattoos on her hips that her parents dont know about. They think tattoos are dirty and that when you get old, theyre not good to look at. She hides them with clothes, even when theyre on the beach. I just dont want drama.

Ruby Gan with son Martin at a tattoo shop in 2009

Asked when she plans to tell her parents about it, she said, Never.

Even tattoo artists have to face the stigma when it comes to their parents and their own tattoos. They hate it. They are very traditional, Sherilyn Santiago said.

Wiji Lacsamana, tattooer, illustrator and perfumer at Radioactive Mushrooms, said: My mom prefers me tattooing other people than me getting the tattoo.

Not all parents hate tattoos, though.

Tasha Santos, digital and public relations executive at Benefit Cosmetics Philippines, said: I know my mom wouldnt mind or be surprised that Ive got tattoosshe knows how obsessed I was with Miami Ink and LA Ink. I think my mom started appreciating tattoos more when she would watch shows with me that really displayed tattoos as art with emotional meaning for people. Sometimes I would show her tattoo designs and shed be impressed by the intricate details. My dad is a bit more conservative. He never directly said no when I mentioned I wanted to get inked, but his reaction was always, Why? What do you need them for?

Celina Fernandez, Benefit Cosmetics Philippines National Brow artist, said: My mom thinks its a sin to get a tattoo.

One of Ruby Gans tattoos is a heart made of her sons thumbprints

But her dad got inked with her. It wasnt planned. I booked my artist months ahead to do home service for me and my friends, but one friend had an emergency and couldnt come home to the Philippines on that date I asked my dad if he wanted to get a tattoo. He asked me if it was painful, I told him that it was tolerable and that I dont find it painful. He agreed to get a tattoo and asked for a dragonhe wanted something simple and will take only an hour or two to make.

Ruby Gan, entrepreneur, marketing VPand mother of two boys, has five tattoos of her own. Her sons have tattoos, too. I really dont mind as long as the designs are nice and not scary. I would say tattoos have evolved so much already. The artists are so good, they can create watercolor designs and they look very pretty.

She said that when it comes to her boys tattoos, her rules are simple: When they told me that they wanted to get their tats, I told them to really think of the meaning of each design. Luckily, their ideas were translated beautifully by the very talented Wiji.

She was with her son Martin when he got his first tattoo. She even got inked with him. And when her other son Ralph got his first, Martin was there for support. Its a family affair, indeed, she said.

As for me, the idea of having tattoos becoming a family affair still seems remote. I am not asking you to love them, I wrote in a letter. I am not even asking you to think they are pretty. But I am asking you to accept that this is not something we will ever agree on. I would like for this to not drive a wedge between us When I decided to get tattoos, it not something I did out of spite for you. They make me happy.

But maybe things could change one day. Maybe we could even get matching tattoos.

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