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2 transient men attempt citizen’s arrest over alleged crime, hit suspect with baseball bat – The Herald-Times08.23.21

Two men who claim a motorist tried to run them over attempted a citizen's arrest this month when they saw the man the next day, chased him down and hit him with a metal baseball bat as he tried to flee.

It's legal in Indiana for a person who witnesses a felony, or has reason to believe someone committed a felony, to subdue and "arrest" the suspect.

On Saturday, Aug. 7, two transient men riding bicycles near Walnut and Dodds streets saw a man they believed was the same person who, the night before, had tried to run over them with a car. They said the incident occurred along the B-Line Trail at a homeless encampment beneath a bridge on Grimes Lane.

The men did not call police to report the alleged crime, but took matters into their own hands the next day.

"They saw him, identified him and detained him in a citizen's arrest for attempted murder," Bloomington Police Department Capt. Ryan Pedigo said.

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A police report filed in the case said the two men hit the alleged suspect with a black metal baseball bat, causing injuries to his leg. The man attempted to run awayand tried to get into a car that was passing by, the report said.

The 42-year-old transient man continued to run, and officers located him in the 700 block of South Washington Street. His leg wound was bleeding, but he refused medical help, and didn't want to press charges against the men who tried to detainhim.

Police learned the man, Robert Dustin Pittman, was wanted on warrants from Orange County on charges of theft, fraud and being a habitual criminal offender.

So a BPD officer arrested him on the warrantsand later also charged him with vehicle theft, four counts of theft and twocounts of unauthorized entry into a vehicle.

After investigating, police said they found probable cause that Pittman had stolen a white 2012 Honda Accord from the 3600 block of South Bainbridge Drive sometime between 8 p.m. Aug. 6 and 6:50 the morning of Aug. 7. Inside the car they also found items that had recently beenreported stolen from parked vehicles in Bloomington.

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The identification came in part from body camera footage from a BPD officer who stopped the car after a suspicious vehicle report. Thedrivertook off running and escaped arrest at that time.

The footage showed a distinct cross tattoo on the driver'sarm that matches a tattoo Pittman has, according to a report filed in the case.

Police said he was not charged in the alleged incident at the homeless camp because officers didn't find evidence at the sceneor proof Pittman was behind the wheel of the car the men said drove into the camp.

Pittman was released from jail on his own recognizance Aug. 10. A jury trial is scheduled for March 14.

In addition to felony offenses, Indiana law also allows a citizen's arrest for misdemeanor offenses where "a breach of peace is being committed in his presence and the arrest is necessary to prevent the continuance of the breach of peace."

The person making a citizen'sarrest is required, "as soon as practical," to notify police "and deliver custody of the person arrested to a law enforcement officer," the law states.

Then, "the law enforcement officer may process the arrested person as if the officer had arrested him."

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Who Runs The World? Kids. : Code Switch – NPR08.23.21

GENE DEMBY, HOST:

I'm Gene Demby, and you are listening to CODE SWITCH from NPR.

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DEMBY: (Singing) I believe the children are the future.

All right, that's enough of my singing. Usually, that's the kind of thing that Shereen handles on the podcast, but it's just me today. So, you know, that's your bad luck. Anyway, in each of the last two years, we have set aside an episode of our podcast to bring y'all some of the best podcasts from young folks around the country. Those podcasts come to us from NPR's Student Podcast Challenge. For those of y'all who don't know, that challenge is where we ask young people to make a podcast and then send it in. And our judges - and Shereen is one of those judges, by the way - pick the winners. So our play cousins on the NPR Ed Team have now heard from more than 50,000 students from across the country - 50,000 - and from students in all 50 states. As you might guess - and relevant to our interests on CODE SWITCH - a whole lot of those young people are making podcasts about who they are or who they want to be and how they fit into the world. So today, we're doing it again. But this time, we're also going to hear from college students as well as the younger folks who usually participate. Here's a little taste.

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LUCILLE BORNAND: Hi, I'm Lucille, and I have an important question for you. What do you think of when you hear the word slug?

UNIDENTIFIED STUDENT #1: You know, 1 in 6 Americans get sick from foodborne diseases each year. That could be us.

UNIDENTIFIED STUDENT #2: I wish my parents knew...

UNIDENTIFIED STUDENT #3: I wish my parents knew...

UNIDENTIFIED STUDENT #4: I wish my parents knew...

UNIDENTIFIED STUDENT #5: I wish my parents knew...

UNIDENTIFIED STUDENT #6: I wish my parents knew...

UNIDENTIFIED STUDENT #7: I wish my parents knew how to switch from HDMI one to HDMI two.

ASTRID JOHNSON: If you could change one thing about me, what would you change?

ZOURI JOHNSON: That you don't punch me (laughter).

A JOHNSON: Zouri, you can't say that. I don't punch you.

DEMBY: But it's not all cuteness and slugs. You got politics. You got racism. There's people grappling with these big, thorny questions about culture. Am I missing anything, Sequoia?

SEQUOIA CARRILLO, BYLINE: Lots of podcasts calling for no more homework. That is a big one.

DEMBY: Of course. Of course. You might remember Sequoia Carrillo. She's an editor with the NPR Ed Team. Welcome back to CODE SWITCH, Sequoia.

CARRILLO: Thanks for having me back.

DEMBY: So, Sequoia, you have spent I don't know how many months listening to hundreds of these podcast submissions, and I'm just really amped to hear what you're bringing us. Last year, I know I asked you how much time you spent listening to this podcasts, but since then, y'all decided to add college students to the contest. So I'm just, like, terrified as to how much time goes into listening to something like this.

CARRILLO: Really, I could not tell you how many hours I've spent listening to these podcasts but definitely weeks of my life, I would say. Don't get me wrong, the middle school and high school ones are all so cute and bring joy and, like, fresh perspective, all of these things. We'll get to them later. But the college ones have super high audio quality, really good storytelling, and adding them in was really easy, a no-brainer. For example, here's one from our college finalists called "A Tale Of Two Crawfish."

DEMBY: "A Tale Of Two Crawfish." OK. OK.

CARRILLO: Yep (laughter).

DEMBY: All right. I want to hear this.

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BRIAN LE: I have a question. Do you like crawfish?

UNIDENTIFIED PERSON #1: Yes.

UNIDENTIFIED PERSON #2: No.

UNIDENTIFIED PERSON #3: No.

UNIDENTIFIED PERSON #4: Yes.

LE: And have you ever had Vietnamese Cajun crawfish?

UNIDENTIFIED PERSON #1: No.

UNIDENTIFIED PERSON #2: No.

UNIDENTIFIED PERSON #4: No.

UNIDENTIFIED PERSON #3: No.

LE: Interesting. Allow me to tell you a story, a story of two crawfish. There once was a crawfish. His name was Cajun, and he was born in an old town in Canada before moving to the city of New Orleans. Though he wasn't necessarily the most well-liked fellow in the city, Cajun was liked by other Acadians from Canada. He knew how to make food, and he made the best food he could and perfected his craft. Cajun spent years in the kitchen serving mostly Acadians until one fateful day when a local person from New Orleans sat themselves down, curious about what the commotion was about.

DEMBY: OK, so we have an Acadian Cajun crustacean.

CARRILLO: Yeah. So that's Brian Le from Emory University in Atlanta, and he brings us this winding story about two fictional crawfish in New Orleans.

DEMBY: OK, I'm very curious about where this is going, but OK, I'm with it so far. I'm with this.

CARRILLO: So Brian has these two crawfish, Cajun, who we just met, and Viet, who's also a transplant to New Orleans, but she's from Vietnam. She's amazing at fishing and also really great at cooking. But there's a problem.

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LE: Viet was a sweet girl, but she was too darn good for the other fishermen to keep up. Everyone asked her because she was the fastest in the water and the cheapest on the books. Unfortunately, this meant that the local fishermen were out of a job, so they enlisted the help of their local Ku Klux Klan to scare Viet into hiding. And, boy, Viet was scared. They burned her boat. They burned her fish. And when she tried to stop them, they even burned her skin.

DEMBY: Wow. That is not where I thought that was going.

CARRILLO: No. And Brian tells this story so well because he starts off kind of with, like, the fun, fictional crawfish. And then by the time you get to the middle, you're like, oh, my God, this is so intense. And he does that on purpose because this story means a lot to him. And while tracking the origin of Vietnamese Cajun food, he was really just tracking Vietnamese immigration in the South. And it let him sit with his own identity as a Vietnamese American from the South. I got to talk to him about this over Zoom recently.

LE: Food is one of the main ways I connect with my culture because I think my parents lost a lot of the traditions and practices when they came over here because they wanted to make sure that I could assimilate. And the surefire way that I can have the most genuine, authentic connection with my grandparents, my family back home in Vietnam is through the food because I know that I'm eating what my grandparents are eating back home.

CARRILLO: So Brian grew up with a lot of traditional Vietnamese food, but also he grew up in Texas. So Vietnamese Cajun crawfish was kind of a perfect blend of cultures. When he was about 3 years old, his mom tried her hand at making it.

LE: For her, she was reconnecting with her culture through cooking. And I was just connecting with it as, like, a kid for the first time.

CARRILLO: But Brian says her crawfish recipe wasn't very good (laughter) until she visited The Boiling Crab in Texas. It's one of the only Vietnamese Cajun food chains in the country.

DEMBY: I've never had Vietnamese Cajun, but my spirit, my body is ready for Vietnamese Cajun. Sign me up.

CARRILLO: It sounds so good, and Brian's mom thought so, too. So when she finished her meal at The Boiling Crab, she went home and immediately tried to recreate the dish.

LE: She, like, memorized the taste, and then she like recreated the recipe at home. And she replicates it for us, like, probably like four or five times a year because it's just so delicious.

DEMBY: So she just cribbed it from the chain. OK. That's very impressive that she pulled it off.

CARRILLO: I wish I could do that. I wish I had that palate (laughter). And Brian said she only went back a couple times to make sure she got the flavors right. But now her recipe is so good that they don't really go anymore. He says it's buttery, garlicky...

DEMBY: Wow.

CARRILLO: ...Pretty much everything you want from crawfish.

DEMBY: OK. First of all, that sounds ridiculous. I want all of this. But I'm thinking, OK, so this is about, you know, picking up tradition and passing it down. Right? Is Brian taking on any of the cooking himself these days?

CARRILLO: Not really. That's still his mom's thing, but he's kind of taken on a new role at the table.

LE: I've eaten it since I was 3, before I knew how to peel the crawfish. And now I'm, like, teaching my little brother and, like, the little young kids in my family to peel it as well.

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DEMBY: So I just want to bring this story home. OK. So we have our Acadian Cajun crustacean and our Southeast Asian Cajun crustacean. How does this end?

(SOUNDBITE OF PODCAST, "A TALE OF TWO CRAWFISH")

LE: Vietnamese Cajun crawfish is very hard to find in New Orleans. The oppressive nature of traditional Cajun food leaves no room for innovation despite itself originating from innovation. You will see Vietnamese people making crawfish in the traditional Cajun style in New Orleans. But if you go anywhere beyond the walls, you will find Vietnamese Cajun food everywhere.

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DEMBY: Now, Sequoia, I know our editor Leah Donnella was one of your judges this year.

CARRILLO: Yes, one of the best (laughter).

DEMBY: And she could not - OK. I mean, you don't have to say that 'cause she's listening. And I know she could not stop talking about her favorite podcast from this year's batch. I think it was about tattoos.

CARRILLO: Yes. This was one of my favorites, too. It was called "Teens And Ink," made by two high school students from Cicero, Ill., right outside Chicago. And they talked about teenagers getting tattoos.

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JULIAN FAUSTO: All right, listeners. Listen. So I'm going to start off from the beginning. So basically, ever since I was younger, I knew since pre-K that I wanted tattoos.

ERIC GUADARRAMA: Whoa. For real? That long? Sorry to cut you off. But before you continue, who influenced you? From...

FAUSTO: A lot of people actually did, but I'm going to tell you main ones - rappers like Lil Wayne, Soulja Boy, MGK. But the main influences actually came from WWE, wrestlers such as, you know, CM Punk.

GUADARRAMA: Continue your story.

FAUSTO: All right. So every year, I asked my mom for a tattoo as a birthday gift. And yes, I know that it is illegal since I wasn't even a teenager at the time. But I didn't know 'cause I remember seeing for a photo of Lil Wayne with tattoos. So long story short, after years - and I mean a lot of years - of asking for a tattoo, I finally got one for my 16th birthday.

CARRILLO: That was Julian Fausto and his cousin Eric Guadarrama. This year, Julian will be a senior in high school, and Eric will be a junior. But they've grown up together their whole lives. This podcast goes on to talk about the stigmas around tattoos and why some people even regret their tattoos. But don't get me wrong - Julian and Eric are very pro-tattoos (laughter). They try to give a balanced argument, but it's clear that their hearts are with tattoos. They love it. One big reason for this is that Julian is actually an artist himself, and he wants to draw all of his own tattoos and maybe even give them to other people one day. I talked to them about this recently at Julian's school.

When did you start drawing?

FAUSTO: Not to sound cringe-y (ph) or corny, but, like, since, like, Day 1 basically.

GUADARRAMA: Yeah. I used to draw, too.

CARRILLO: Really?

GUADARRAMA: But then - but when I saw his drawings, I'm like, damn. I need to stop, bro. Like, I was good at drawing - you can even ask him (ph) - but not too good. Just looking at his stuff is like, damn, so amazed. Like - so I just focused on my own things.

CARRILLO: Eric is so proud of Julian. He kept pulling out his phone throughout the interview and showing pictures of original designs he'd drawn dating all the way back to when they were in middle school.

GUADARRAMA: So that's Bart Simpson. And then on my eyebrows, it says Chicago. Then I got a cross, and then after that, the heart beat thing. And on my, like, chest, I had the girlfriend that I was dating back in the - (laughter) we're not with her anymore. But - (laughter).

CARRILLO: They used to do this thing with deodorant and Sharpie. They'll explain it better than I can.

FAUSTO: There's a thing if - where you draw on a piece of paper with pin. And then you trace it from the back. And you put it on someone. But before you put it on them, you put deodorant. And you put it on them, and you put deodorant again. And it stays on them for a little bit.

DEMBY: So I'm actually interested in how they figured out this deodorant tattoo situation. Like, that seems very ingenious. But also, you walking around all week with a tattoo that smells like Degree or something. You know what I mean? It's, like, a very fragrant...

CARRILLO: (Laughter).

DEMBY: It's very fragrant body art.

CARRILLO: Totally. I think a lot of it was from the Internet.

DEMBY: Got you. OK. That makes sense.

CARRILLO: (Laughter) By the way, the reason that they started on this whole tattoo kick was actually their moms.

DEMBY: OK. (Laughter) That's not where I thought you were going with that.

FAUSTO: I looked up to people that have tattoos. So that made me want to get more. And my mom has tattoos. And everyone in my family has tattoos.

CARRILLO: Their moms are sisters. And they actually got their first tattoos together when they were 13. They were in a friend's basement. The guys love that story. But they really want professional-quality tattoos. So when Julian's 16th birthday rolled around, he wanted his tattoo to be perfect. He drew it himself. He researched this artist online. He drove to Indiana because Illinois, even with parental consent, you have to be 18 to get a tattoo. I mean, Julian really put in the work.

DEMBY: So they went to great lengths to get this tattoo. You know, to get these tattoos they wanted for a long time, they went to another state. I'm curious, like, what was the tattoo that he ended up getting?

CARRILLO: He has Chicago written on his forearm in a really cool font. And the I...

DEMBY: OK. But wait, you said that they're from Cicero. But, OK. OK. Anyway. Go ahead.

CARRILLO: (Laughter) Yes. And the I is dotted with the number 16 because he got it for his 16th birthday. And after he turns 18, it seems like he really wants to go all out with tattoos.

FAUSTO: Like, my goal by the end of college is to have my neck down. And then, I'm not getting my face. But I do plan to get something, like, behind ear or something along those lines.

CARRILLO: They're really expensive.

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‘Forever and yesterday’: Remembering the Indiana State Fair stage collapse 10 years later – IndyStar08.09.21

Alina BigJohny, Indiana State Fair stage collapse victim, remembered

Alina BigJohny died in the 2011 Indiana State Fair stage collapse. Her sister, Christy, uses her memory as encouragement to make every day count.

Lukas Flippo, Indianapolis Star

Buried under twisted metal and surrounded by dozens of broken bodies, Maggie Mullin, 3, lay bleeding in her leopard-print tutu.

It was 8:46 p.m. on Aug. 13, 2011, and the outdoor music stage at the Indiana State Fair had just collapsed in a sudden, violent thunderstorm.

Maggie was trapped in the craggy rubble next to her mother, Laura Magdziarz, stunned and helpless. Maggies two siblings, 12 and 10, had escaped.

Within minutes, strangers rushed to the rescue, making Maggie an unlikely symbol of the tragedy unfathomable and frightening and heroic and hopeful at once played out in a fast-moving theater of the horrific.

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The rescuers wrapped Maggies wound and passed the injured child from one person to the next through the wreckage.

Though battered, Maggie survived, as did her mother, brother, sister and grandmother.

For that, Magdziarz, is thankful. Little Maggie is now a tall 8th grader who runs track and plays flute. She likes baking, cooking, and animals. She hopes to go to college and law school.

Five of us went and five of us came home, Magdziarz said.

But others did not.

Someone goes to a concert and they never come back, said Christy BigJohny, whose sister, Alina, was killed at the age of 23. That pain doesnt go away, it just becomes the new normal.

The accident 10 years ago killed seven people and injured 58 when strong winds knocked scaffolding and stage equipment into a packed crowd before a concert by the country duo Sugarland.

Two independent investigations found that the Indiana State Fair Commission was unprepared for the violent storm, and that fair officials were disorganized, misinformed and inattentive to construction of the stage, which was flimsy and couldnt withstand winds even much lower than the 59 mph gusts that night.

The stage was never inspected because state law didnt require it and the fair didnt inspect it itself.

The disaster prompted many changes. Stage inspections are now required by law and the fair commission revamped its emergency plans. The injured were awarded $50 million in damages from the state and 19 companies involved with the concert.

The Indiana State Fair Commission executive director at the time, Cindy Hoye, who still holds the position, declined an interview request but issued a brief statement.

"The 2011 tragedy was a pivotal part of our history, and it changed the entire outdoor entertainment industry and across the country. It is today, and will forever be, at the core and foundation of how we operate," the statement reads.

Today, a small plaque on a short podium sits in the shadows underneath the racetrack grandstand with the names of the seven victims.

Christiana Sanitago. Tammy VanDam. Nathan Byrd. Glenn Goodrich. Jennifer Haskell. Meagan Toothman. Alina BigJohny.

A friend sent Christy BigJohny just after 9 p.m.: The stage had collapsed at the state fair.

BigJohny, in Fort Wayne, was confused. Her sister, Alina, who just turned 23, had texted her minutes before Sugarland was to perform with questions about her birthday party the next day.

BigJohny tried to call Alinas cellphone. No answer. Tried again and again. Nothing. On the fourth call it was answered by an Indiana State trooper.

Does your sister have any distinguishing characteristics or tattoos? the trooper asked.

Yes, a tattoo of butterflies with the word Believe on her side, BigJohny told him.

You better get down here, the trooper said. Christy, her worry rising, was already on the way.

Rewind: Indiana State Fair stage collapse - whose call was it?

Alina was due to start her new job teaching middle school English in Muncie the week after the concert. Instead, she was buried Aug. 19. It was the same day Jennifer Haskell, 22, who had attended the concert with Alina, died at Methodist Hospital.

Everyone was numb and dazed for the first year, BigJohny said.

At first, reminders of her sister were everywhere. Customers at the bank where BigJohny worked gave her cards, flowers, even rosary beads. She took a two-month absence from her job.

Another stressor was the legal settlement talks she attended with her mother.

I wasnt very angry at first but once we found out the stage wasnt built correctly and inspections werent required I got angrier, BigJohny said.

She said she does not know how much of the $50 million her parents received but said the end of the process was a huge relief. It allowed BigJohny to start looking forward, though the past is always near.

Its been 10 years and it doesnt seem like it, she said. It seems fresh. Sometimes I say, Oh my God, she would have been 30. Life would have been different.

BigJohny used the death of her sister, a free-spirit and risk taker, to guide her toward a new career.

BigJohny pursued her photography hobby more seriously. She opened a studio in Fort Wayne, specializing in portrait settings and events, and cut her banking hours to part time.

Alinas passing pushed me to pursue my passion, BigJohny said. When I had doubts, I heard her say, Why not go for it? What are you waiting for? If you fail, you fail. If you dont, you dont. Go get it.

Meagan Toothman lay unconscious in Methodist Hospital for nine days before she died.

She was supposed to enter her final internship in school psychology come fall. She was coaching cheer at her old high school and enrolled at the University of Cincinnati.

Her parents established a scholarship in their daughters name at her high school, which quickly became three scholarships at three schools, administered through the Meagan Toothman Foundation. In 10 years, they've handed out a thousand scholarships.

Its a chance for Meagan to continue to help others. But carrying on the legacy can make it difficult to excise the memories of Aug. 13, 2011.

Awarding the scholarships is a happy event but there are always mixed emotions, her mom, Melissa Oakley, said.

And the simple passage of time is itself a ceaseless reminder, Oakley said.

Meagans younger sister and brother are now older than she was when she died. So are children she used to babysit.

In our minds, Meagan is 24, Oakley said. Sometimes it seems forever and yesterday at the same time.

Oakley said shell live with the pain because its mixed with the sweet.

But she wont accept tortured rationalizations for why Meagan died.

The phrase I hate is, Everything happens for a reason, she said. There is no rhyme or reason for something like this.

Andrea Vellinga was dubbed the miracle patient.

Doctors at Methodist Hospital were not sure if she would live or lead a normal life after a speaker crushed her skull.

Vellinga doesnt remember anything right before the accident but she said what friends have told her is enough to convince her she was lucky. No need to replay it.

Im glad I dont remember, Vellinga said.

Stage collapse: What happened to 'miracle patient' from State Fair accident?

Unconscious, she was admitted to the hospital as a Jane Doe. Her friend, desperate for information, asked hospital officials if Jane Doe wore one boot, with horses etched on it. She'd taken off the other shoe, hoping Sugarland would sign it.

Yes, they said. It was Vellinga.

She spent six weeks in a coma and 1 years in rehab, learning to talk, walk and eat again. She lives on her own now in Pendleton but suffers from short term memory loss and needs to take a lot of notes to track her affairs.

From 2016: What happened to the 'miracle patient'?

Despite some triumphs, like running a half marathon in 2016, daily life doesn't always feel like a miracle.

Vellinga takes medication to fight depression and has occasional seizures. Her injured leg often hurts and she doesnt have use of her left arm. Shes learned to do a lot of everyday things one-handed, like tie her shoes. Her mother and daughter cook for her.

Most days are spent running to doctors appointments, exercising on a stationary bike, volunteering and looking after her husky mix, Benji.

Vellinga and her husband divorced. She doubts shell remarry, given her condition.

I feel like Im a lot of work, she said.

But shes not complaining.

Im just happy to be here, Vellinga said.

Her next volunteer project will be to help open an apartment community Villa Licci,for people suffering brain injuriesin Westfield. And though she has returned to the state fair in the past, Vellinga will be far from Indiana when it opens this year.

Instead, shell be at a camp in Colorado for people with brain injuries to hike and river raft, her first time doing those things since the accident.

The counselors assist you, its the only way I can do it, she said. But Im looking forward to doing something I havent been able to do in a long time."

Even from that terrible night, beautiful things have emerged. Many of the people who helped rescue Maggie Mullin and her tutu from the rubble have become some of her mother's dearest friends.

The amount of friendships Ive made is unbelievable, Magdziarz said.

Magdziarz sees many of them at Sugarland concerts, which she continues to attend when they tour.

And Maggie goes too, but without the tutu.

Shes too old for that, Magdziarz said. The reason she wore it was because (Sugarland singer) Jennifer Nettles wore one at an awards ceremony. But all those tutus I bought her are locked in a box and I cant say I miss them.

Magdziarz has had 14 surgeries on her legs, back and shoulder, and has trouble moving around.

But she doesnt dwell on it.

Instead, when she does look back, she focuses on the rescue.

That night you saw the best in people, Magdziarz said. It really renewed your faith in humanity.

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People named Peyton provide living tribute to Colts Hall of Fame quarterback – WTHR08.09.21

During Peyton Manning's career, 24,963 boys and 27,466 girls were named Peyton.

INDIANAPOLIS In the decade of the 2000s, when Peyton Manning led the Indianapolis Colts to the best record in the NFL over that span, parents named 24,963 boys Peyton in the United States (according to the Social Security Administration). That name, spelled with an "e", was even more popular for girls, with 27,466 Peytons.

Across central Indiana, kids of all ages are named after mom and dad's favorite Colts quarterback. A bust of Peyton Manning will be unveiled at his Pro Football Hall of Fame induction Sunday. The Peyton statue stands outside Lucas Oil Stadium. But perhaps more significant is the living tribute of so many people who carry his name.

Peyton Rodebeck

Pittsboro's Peyton Rodebeck might be the first in Indiana named after Peyton Manning. Her dad loves the Tennessee Volunteers and gave his daughter the name while Manning was still in college.

"It's an honor to be named after him, says Rodebeck, born Dec. 27, 1996. He's a great athlete and a great person in general, so I appreciate it."

Todd Miller said he and his wife were originally thinking about Jordan for their daughters name. But Miller says he thought that name was too popular. Manning being drafted by the Colts meant there would be many more Peytons in central Indiana in years to come.

"When he was just getting started with the Colts, I used to make her mad, Miller said. When he would have a bad game, we'd call her by her middle name."

"In church, people would be talking about Peyton just using the first name, Rodebeck recalled. Everybody knew who Peyton was. I was like, Well, that's me. Then I quickly realized they were not talking about me."

Peyton Clark

Peyton Clark from Ingalls, Indiana, came along July 1, 2000, before Manning's third season with the Colts. When Clark was just three or four years old, he got a photo with Manning at the Indianapolis International Airport. Manning was in a hurry and was hesitant to stop and pose for the photo. But he gladly obliged when he learned the little boy carried his name.

Clarks mother, Betsy Miller, described the photo that her son is not sure he was old enough to remember.

"His older cousin is standing in front of Peyton, Miller said. He's to the side of his cousin. And he's just kind of looking away, like doesn't even know what's going on. But (Manning) was very nice to stop and do that."

"Yeah, I can tell that I didn't know what was going on at the time, but it is definitely really cool to look back on, said Peyton, looking at the photo on his mothers smartphone. "He's got his throwing arm on me so that was pretty cool."

Peyton Tranbarger

Peyton Tranbarger was born Aug. 14, 2010, in Indianapolis - right before Peyton's last season actually playing for the Colts.

"I love the name, but everyone always spells it wrong, said Peyton, referring to many girls spelling Peyton with an a instead of an e.

Her dad is a Tennessee and Colts fan who was going to name his first born child Peyton with an e boy or girl.

"I have to use the word hero loosely as a sports figure, said Jerry Tranbarger. But, man, he really made Sundays fun. You always looked forward to it. He was an awesome guy in the community, never got in trouble."

His daughter has learned more about the man she is named after working on school projects.

"I remember he made a children's hospital and that he has a brother, said 10-year-old Peyton.

Two brothers, her father corrected.

Peyton Andrew Smith

Indy's Mary Smith shows her Colts devotion with a horseshoe tattoo on her shoulder. Then she named her son for two Colts quarterbacks. Her 6-year-olds first name is Peyton, middle name Andrew born Oct. 3, 2014, in the middle of Andrew Luck's best NFL season.

"Only certain people would get tattoos, Smith said. And I think he might be the only one that would be named after both of them. I mean, there's a lot of Peytons probably, right? Have you seen a Peyton Andrew? He might be the first and only."

Those four Peytons cover almost 18 years of passing on the name of the Colts number 18.

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Area news in brief for May 6 – The-review05.06.21

ENTREPRENEUR WORKSHOP YWCA Mahoning Valley plans a program to help new entrepreneurs through the WE360Program.The Zoom program will be 6 p.m. May 12. Registrants can expect to gain tips to ensure their business is on the right track. Those interested can register atbit.ly/CMWE360or visit the YWCA Mahoning Valley website,ywcamahoningvalley.org. WE360is a partnership between YWCA andUreeka, an online platform dedicated to assisting women and entrepreneurs of color with their business. For more information on WE360, contact Jessica Gibbs atjgibbs@mvywca.orgor 330-746-6361 ext. 110.

MAHONING VACCINES Mahoning County Public Health will conduct a COVID-19 vaccine clinic from 3 to 6 p.m. May 13 at Sebring McKinley Jr./Sr. High School, 225 E. Indiana Ave. in Sebring Village. The Johnson & Johnson vaccine will be available for the appointment times, and walk-ins will be welcome. Residents are urged to schedule an appointment, as it reduces the wait time by five to 10 minutes. Appointments can be made through MCPHs scheduling system, ArmorVax, at http://www.mahoninghealth.org. For those needing assistance with the online scheduling system, call 330-270-2855, Option 3. Patients must be age 18 or older to receive the vaccine.

ALLIANCE VACCINES Alliance City Health Department plans a walk-in COVID-19 vaccine clinic from 4 to 6 p.m. May 12 at Alliance Area Senior Center. No appointments are necessary for the event.

ALLIANCE ZONING City of Alliance Board of Zoning Appeals will meet at 4:30 p.m. May 18 via teleconference. The meeting will be livestreamed via the City of Alliances Facebook page, available at the shortened link, bit.ly/3tt0znW. Public comments will be accepted no later than noon May 18 at eng.bld.zon@allianceoh.gov. Provide your name, address and telephone number for verification. Among items to be discussed are a permit for a tattoo parlor at 50 E. Main St.

DAY OF CARING United Way of Greater Stark County plans a new event to take the place of its annual Day of Caring community projects. This year, the agency asks offices in Stark County to collect new underwear and socks for the children and adults the United Way serves. On May 14, United Way of Greater Stark County will collect the donations at its downtown Canton office, on Court Avenue behind 401 Market Ave. North.For those unable to make it in person, United Way officials say there's anAmazon Wishlist to help donors send items directly to the Canton office. Visituwstark.org/day-of-caringfor full event details.

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The sweet side of a sour pandemic – IU Southeast Horizon02.04.21

A New Albany business owner lost her job because of the COVID-19 pandemic last year, so she fought to make her sugary dream a reality

Stevie, the owner and founder of the New Albany Sugar Shoppe, lost her job of ten years for the second time last April.

The first time, which was during the 2008 recession, kept her out of work for months. This time COVID-19 changed her mindset. Stevie decided that she would not be returning to corporate America.

COVID-19 has taken a toll on hundreds of thousands of Hoosiers across Indiana that are just like Stevie. According to the Carsey School of Public Policy, from February to December 2020 about 104,700 Hoosiers lost their jobs.

However, Stevie would not be waiting for another job to come. This time she would be taking matters into her own hands.

After searching for so long about what to do next during the COVID-19 pandemic, Stevie stumbled upon some old candy recipes from her grandmother in the attic.

Stevie always loved going to the farmers market, so she decided to recreate some of the candy from those old recipes with a few of her own personal touches and then open up a candy shop there.

The candy sold in a flash. Stevie could not keep up with all of the attention her little shop was getting at the farmers market. Her house was filled with candy, so her husband asked her to find somewhere to store all of it.

Stevie planned on just storing candy at the facility she found, but instead she decided to open it up to the public and turn it into her own candy store.

We opened Halloween weekend for a soft opening, Stevie said. There was nothing soft about it.

The soft opening was a massive success. Dozens of people lined up outside in the cold to see the store and taste Stevies candy. While they waited, they were served hot cocoa since only six people could be in the store at a time due to COVID-19 restrictions.

Stevie took out nearly $75,000 of her 401k to open the store, which was a majority of her own savings.

I want to grow further, I want to go further, she said. Taking on a business is a huge risk, but it also gives me the chance to bet on myself.

Stevie realized she could not do everything on her own, so she called her son. Hayden Clark, a recent college graduate who majored in business, was living in Japan at the time, but he had also recently lost his job due to the pandemic. He decided to go back to the United States to help his mom with the shop.

Until he had to go back to Japan in late January, Clark loved working at his moms candy shop.

There arent a lot of jobs that let you sell candy and build Legos, he said.

Clark has enjoyed being back in Japan with his family, but he will be returning to the shop in March.

Clark has not been able to acquire any Japanese candy yet due to being quarantined after traveling, but he said he will be looking for collectible items, traditional treats and weird eats to bring back to the U.S. next month.

Stevie also has help from her friends and family while running the shop. Her husband and daughter drop by when they can to help stock shelves and run the cash register.

One of her friends, April Boss, has also been a major part of the operation thanks to her artistic abilities.

Boss, a tattoo artist who works at Tattoo Envy in Louisville, has been a huge help for the New Albany Sugar Shoppe. Boss is Stevies tattoo artist and a long-time friend of hers.

Shes one of those people that has your back at all times and just wants the best for you, Boss said.

Stevie told Boss exactly what she wanted for the branding of the shop. The logo is the main focus and crown jewel of the New Albany Sugar Shoppes brand. The skull with colorful candy inside that is included in the logo speaks to Stevies heritage and

culture.

Stevie is from the south, so all of the candy that is uniquely created and distributed by Stevie has a southern Texas and Louisiana flair. Making sure that her southern roots shone through in Indiana was important to Stevie when she was launching the New Albany Sugar Shoppe.

In her opinion, the weirdest candy Stevie makes is the I Love Elvis, a tribute to the iconic country singer Elvis Presley which consists of peanut butter, banana and semi-sweet dark chocolate as an ode to his famous peanut butter and banana sandwiches.

Making the candy has been the most important part of the process for Stevie. She enjoys making and eating pecan pralines the most out of any other candy at her shop since the candys recipe is a special one from her grandmother that she put her own personal spin on.

There have been multiple blessings in opening this candy store, Stevie said. It has been incredible.

The New Albany Sugar Shoppe is located at 56 Pearl St. in New Albany. The shop is open Wednesday through Sunday. On Wednesday through Friday the shop is open from 12 p.m. to 7 p.m., on Saturdays they are open from 11 a.m. to 6 p.m. and on Sundays they are open from 12 p.m. to 4 p.m.

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Tattoo Profile: Free Hand Body Art combines quality piercing and tattooing with a hot rod theme in a clean friendly environment.

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Tattoo Profile: Untitled Ink was created from a love of custom unique tattoos. We have traveled to see some of the best in the world, and been tattooed by some of them as well. Our mission was to bring that uniqueness and talent to Indiana.

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Tattoo Profile: At Artistic Skin Designs and Body Piercing, we cater to our clients with a knowledgeable staff, custom designs and the highest quality body jewelry available. With qualified artists and piercers, hospital quality sterilization and competitive pricing, we are sure your experience with us will be a good one.

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Tattoo Profile: Metamorphosis is a full-service tattoo and piercing studio and has been located in the Broad Ripple cultural district of Indianapolis, Indiana since 1998. The concept behind the studio was to create a unique setting with an exceptional staff.

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As you might expect considering how large the city is, there are a lot of great tattoo artists in the Indianapolis area. Some of the best ones include Enrique Hernandez, Laura Black, Tom Crawford, Jeff Foti, and Brian McNulty. If you see these artists work, you will understand immediately why they have come to be known as some of the top tattoo artists the city of Indianapolis. They have worked hard so they could figure out the styles that they are best at while also being able to go outside their comfort zones when needed. Keep in mind that those are just some of the top-ranked artists in the city as there are quite a few more that get consistently high marks from their clients.

Some people think that finding the right tattoo artist in Indianapolis is going to be a daunting task, but it really isnt these days. Just about every tattoo artist in the city knows that the industry is more competitive than ever, so they will be sure to post a picture of every tattoo that they make and hope that potential clients like them too. All you have to do is single out the one that you think will do the best job on the tattoo you want and then just head on over to their shop.

One example of a top tattoo shop in Indianapolis is Big Time Tattoos and Piercings, which has excellent online reviews and has a great reputation the tattooing community. This great-looking shop was established back in 2012 as Big Tyme Tattoos and quickly become a favorite to locals and people outside of the city. They pride themselves on being able to handle any type of tattoo that you can come up with and they also offer some very low prices compared to the competition. On top of all of that, they have all of the latest tattooing tools, so this is definitely a place you should look into if you want to get a tattoo in Indy.

While Big Time Tattoos and Piercings might be a great tattoo studio for some people in Indianapolis, it might not be the best place for you. It really comes down to knowing the type of tattoo shop that you want to be in. Do you want to find one that has a nice, modern look, or are you more interested in finding a place that is known for hiring some of the best artists in the Indianapolis area? Every shop is different, so you will want to do your due diligence before you commit your money (and your skin) to any of them.

If you live in the Indianapolis area or you are going to be in the city, you are lucky because you have a lot of excellent tattooing options at your disposal. Regardless of whether you are looking to get a large tribal tattoo, a small finger tattoo, or anything in between, you can be sure that you will be able to find a great place and a great artist to create an amazing tattoo for you.

Before becoming a state, the piece of land that would later be known as Indiana was a part of the Northwest Territory in addition to areas that are now the states of Wisconsin, Illinois, the western part of Michigan and the east half of Minnesota. At the time, most of the land in this area was wooded. In 1820, a legislature appointed committee chose a part of land that they thought would be suitable to be the capital city and it happened to be a thick, forested area that was at the intersection of Fall Creek and White River. They used specific criteria before picking this location and this included fertile land, access to a navigable river and a location that would be central to the state.

The engineer and surveyor of the land, Alexander Ralston, who had worked with Pierre LEnfant while he was planning the Washington DC, was picked to design the layout for the city that would be Indianapolis. Ralston had been inspired by the work hed done with LEnfant and based off that, he built what was later known as the Mile Square plan which consisted of circle in the middle with four avenues leaving the circle and bisecting a street grid. The circle was 300 square feet and placed on top of a hill filled with sugar maples. Originally, the area was there for the Governors House and they allocated other plots of land for three religious institutions, two markets, the Court House and the State House.

In the same way Washington DC is set up, a number of streets were named after different states like the four main avenues named Indiana, Virginia, Massachusetts and Kentucky Avenues. Being aware of the sites landscape, Ralston planned two streets that were angled and ran parallel to Fall Creek where it ends up meeting up with the southeast section of Indy. Necessities for more space that was open was not something Ralston that was important because of the proximity of the wilderness that was just about half a mile from any part of Indianapolis. On the other hand, green spaces popped up in the city by way of the natural triangular shapes formed by the streets crossing each other.

By the time the 1820s rolled around, residential lots were starting to be sold in the eastern and northern section of the Mile Square. This was the case because people wanted to be as far away from the lowlands and swamps of Fall Creek, Pogues Run and White River, as they could be. The riverfront area earned a reputation of being a working class area with a great deal of commercial operations while the north side of the city was where the fashionable residential homes were located. Because of where people wanted to live, streets started heading further north out of the central part to accommodate all those that wanted to move away from the wet areas.

National Road was extended to connect from Indiana to the east coast in 1826. It linked with Washington Street which was considered the main commercial road coming into the new city. This was the first major federally funded highway in the U.S. Within a few years, the construction of the road was finished. This gave the area the kind of economic boost that it needed as the city was mostly isolated and new. Indianapolis was a big time stopping point for people moving along the National Road by the 1830s.

Planning for a central canal would be what was needed to connect the city to other areas in the state and outside Indiana. However, the plans for the canal fell through because of the depression of 1837 and only eight miles of the canal ended up being built. At the same time, where the canal failed, the railroads picked up the slack. On the Ohio River, the train connected Indiana and Madison to Indianapolis in 1847. This is the same year that Indianapolis was officially chartered. Eleven railroads went into Indianapolis in 1870 which made the city an important Civil War staging ground. At this time, the city was growing, and land kept being added to the area outside of the original city because a cemetery and military grounds were needed. Military Park and University Park, amongst others, were some of the first dedicated public spaces and after the war, they became recreational areas.

After the turn of the century, the automobile and streetcar changed the way things were happening and both of these technologies would have impacted Indianapolis. As the people kept filing into the city, neighborhoods were created to keep up with the influx. Public transportation helped in the growth of the city as well. In other areas, automobile moguls like Frank Wheeler, James Allison and Carl Fisher were building their estates in these new suburbs of Indianapolis which brought in well known architects. They also went in together on founding the Indianapolis Motor Speedway. Hugh Landon, a prominent business man, built his American Country Place estate called Oldfield, which is now a National Historic Landmark and part of the Indianapolis Museum of Art. The landscape was actually designed by the Olmsted Brothers Percival Gallagher and he placed it along the White River which was very remote at the time.

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Indianapolis had a period of revitalization in the late 20th century and the early 21st century. The first Greenways Master Plan was put in place in 1994, which seeded to enlarge the parkway system to go past Kesslers beginning vision of what the city was to look like. Now, there are well over 60 miles of trails in a broad network that almost doubled the infrastructure that was originally built during Sheridan and Kesslers time. New bike lanes were added in addition to the creation of the Monon and Cultural Trails. This allows easy and quick access to downtown Indianapolis and have been one of the main sources of travel for city residents to get to open public spaces.

Indianapolis, Indiana has a rich tattoo history. Featuring shops such as Metamorphosis, Voluta Tattoo, Artistic Skin Designs INC, and Steel Rod Tattoo, Indianapolis, Indiana is a great destination if youre looking for some new ink. With a population of around 830,000, there are lots of potential customers for the parlors in town. Yelp currently lists 47 different shops when searching for tattoo in Indianapolis, Indiana. Google Places lists 81 different tattoo shops in Indianapolis, which shows how competitive the city truly is. When doing research for your artist, we suggest not paying too much attention to price because quality is much more important when youre going to be living with the artwork for the rest of your life.

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Scars and Stories Tattoo owner reacts to damage caused by devastating Wabash Avenue Fire – WTHITV.com12.21.20

TERRE HAUTE, Ind. (WTHI) - News 10 continues its coverage of a fire in Terre Haute that happened on Friday evening. It started at a strip of businesses near 18th and Wabash Avenue. These businesses are connected to one another. No one was injured, but damage from this fire is extensive.

One of the businesses that saw significant damage due to this fire was Scars and Stories Tattoo. Its located at 1715 Wabash Avenue. News 10 spoke with owner Branden Martin to get his reaction in the aftermath of this unfortunate situation.

Martin says everyone was working on Friday evening when all of a sudden around 6 PM, a man ran from across the street into the tattoo parlor and said the building was on fire. Martin says he and his coworkers ran out back, and sure enough the building adjacent to their shop was up in flames. Martin says his adrenaline kicked in and they grabbed everything that they could.

Its like we lost our second home, Martin said, Those guys therewe are all family. We all run the shop together. We all do a group effort and just to have it be goneits pretty hard.

He says the water and smoke damage took out everything in the shop. The ceiling collapsed in and almost nothing was salvageable. He says their daily tools, inks, and most of their machinery is now gone. Martin says its a helpless and sickening feeling.

Im a mix of emotions, Martin said, Its like, youre glad that everybody made it out, but youre also kind of a wreck from knowing that a business that all of us created and pushed really hard to build is gone in a matter of a few hours.

Now, Martin is trying to pick up the pieces. Luckily, everything was covered by insurance. He says hes never been through something like this before and didnt know where to start. However, one thing that shocked him was how supportive the Terre Haute community has been in the aftermath.

We never knew how much of a difference weve made until we see everybodys comments, posts, phone calls, and text messages, Martin said, That right there is the best feeling in the world. It lets us know that weve made a difference and that people truly care about us so that helps a lot.

Martin says he hasnt slept much since the fire, and they are in the process of looking for a new location to temporarily use while all of this gets sorted out so they can get back up and running again.

Were not done. Were coming back stronger than ever, Martin concluded, COVID-19 didnt stop us and well, neither is a fire. Its just one hurdle for 2020.

Terre Haute Fire Chief Jeff Fisher told News 10 the fire is still under investigation. Members from the Indiana Fire Marshals office have been on the scene digging through rubble to try and find a cause. He says they are throwing every resource possible to get to the bottom of what caused this devastating fire.

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JLAP: Grief is more than just the ‘holiday blues’ – Indiana Lawyer12.11.20

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By Ashley E. Hart

I have a tattoo that reads TCB above a lightning bolt. A reminder Im a musician at heart. I spent 20 years recording, writing songs and performing. Nothing taught me more about music catharsis than my uncles gathered round vinyl records pretending with every note they were Elvis Presley. I fell in love with the voice and black velvet smile of the boy from Tupelo, Mississippi, a singer who infused rhythm and blues into rock n roll. Though wed never meet, I worked with many around him: the Jordanaires, Sweet Inspirations, Millie Kirkham, D.J. Fontana, James Burton and Lisa Marie.

I adopted their Taking Care of Business in a Flash. Be fearless. Dont hesitate. Take adventures. Push through. Show no emotion. Dont slow down. Put out fires. Be everything to everyone. Though our symbols may be a gavel and scales of justice, lawyers take care of business! Too much of this is a holiday recipe for burnout. In the thick of this pandemic, this charging forward mentality is only one puzzle piece. We must also stop and process what is happening.

We all feel it, right? Its a million little things from missing the connection at the bar association Christmas party or showing your spirit by wearing your favorite holiday tie to court. And its earth-shattering moments of clients losing businesses, losing loved ones to the virus, or being sick and recovering ourselves. Its hard to put into words. Where words fail, music speaks. Hans Christian Andersen.

There is more in the air than holiday cheer. It feels heavy and different, the kind of energy you cant put your finger on. David Kessler, renowned grief expert, issued a wake-up call: We are all dealing with the collective loss of the world we knew. The world we knew is now gone forever. This collective grief is fear of the unknown, loss of traditions and routines, evolving sense of safety and livelihood, physical losses, isolation, and anger about it all. 2020 is a grief song if I ever wrote one.

Grief is like glitter. You can throw a handful of glitter into the air, but when you try to clean it up, youll never get it all. Even long after the event, you will still find glitter tucked into corners, it will always be there somewhere. Unknown. How can we possibly navigate our own grief, let alone the collective feelings of the world? I reach for what brings me peace and what I know in my bones. More than holiday blues, I know its complex and overwhelming, but take a sound of music tour with me. This works best if you play the songs as you read. Put some records on. Ill be that girl singing at the top of my lungs in my uncles warehouse. Lets start at the very beginning, with a few blue chords. Elvis sings grief truth.

Blue Christmas (Billy Hayes, Jay Johnson, 1957)

And when those blue snowflakes start fallin

Thats when those blue memories start callin

Youll be doin all right with your Christmas of white

But Ill have a blue, blue blue blue Christmas

The grief experience is haunting, like Millie Kirkhams high notes. Grief is different from each vantage point. Its looking through the window of someones seemingly perfect holiday but sitting behind your own blue one. Our households are vast. Some are alone. Some have company and family. Each poses its own positives and challenges. Perception is not reality. Check on everyone, even your strongest connections. Just because someone grieving looks fine doesnt mean that burdens carried arent heavy! Make a list of people and do holiday check-ins.

Blue Suede Shoes (Carl Perkins, 1956)

Well, do anything that you want to do

But uh-uh, honey lay off of them shoes

Dont you step on my blue suede shoes

Carl Perkins wrote about more than stylish shoes he set boundaries! You can too! Grief doesnt come with instructions to tell you how to handle it. Each grief journey is unique. Personal grief may be some of the worst moments of our lives. Dont compare your shoes all grief deserves its place in the process, without one experience being more important. Take space to grieve as you need to, on your timetable.

Moody Blue (Mark James, 1976 Authors favorite!)

Her personality unwinds, just like a ball of twine

On a spool that never ends

Just when I think I know her well, her emotions reveal

Shes not the person that I thought I knew

Shes a complicated lady, so color my baby moody blue

Grief moods are normal. Grief doesnt hit directly like an arrow. Its circular, at all angles. Some call it an ocean. We have grief triggers from our five senses and memories, any one of which can cause us to relive traumatic moments. Dont push these moments away. Sit with them. Feel them. Never be ashamed of these moments (and never shame someone for them). They are your mind, body, and souls way of processing grief. Like every lawyer says, it depends. Color this lady grief complicated! Give me a break, Im grieving here!

A Mess of Blues (Doc Pomus, Mort Shuman, 1960)

I aint slept a wink since Sunday, I cant eat a thing all day

Every day is just blue Monday

Since youve been away, since youre gone

I got a mess of blues

Grief is not a pretty process. Its tangled like last years string lights stuffed back into the box. Some of which are physically burned out. It feels like everything hurts. Dont control the chaos grief is feisty, it wont let you. Do your best to maintain order in small areas. Take care of you. Incremental goals help untangle the mess.

G.I. Blues (Sid Tepper, Roy Bennett, 1960)

Wed like to be heroes, but all that we do here is march

And they dont give the Purple Heart for a fallen arch

You cant march through grief, stomping all around never acknowledging it. That wont stop grief from finding you. Its exhausting holding emotions inside. Grief doesnt make you feel heroic, but facing grief and being vulnerable to tell the story is the fabric of warriors. You dont have to be a hero doing this alone.

Blue Hawaii (Leo Robin, Ralph Rainger, 1961)

Lovely you and blue Hawaii

With all this loveliness, there should be love

The holidays make us feel like we should get life together like a Hallmark movie. Life isnt a movie where Elvis wins the fight, saves the day, flawlessly sings a song, and kisses a girl in the first 10 minutes. I love it, but that is not griefs script. There are Blue Hawaii vacation moments in grief treasured memories, daily gratitude, support from others, and people and places that feel like sunshine. Stay close to that invaluable paradise. Dont let griefs jagged edges make you bitter; it will only steal healing and life from you. Everything starts and ends with love. Grief is just love with no place to go. Jamie Anderson.

When My Blue Moon Turns Gold Again (Wiley Walker, Gene Sullivan, 1957)

The castles we used to build together

Were the sweetest stories ever told

Maybe we will live them all again

And my blue moon again will turn to gold

Holiday heartache will touch us. As a social worker, I get asked how to heal broken hearts. I continue to look for that answer in the places I go and with the people I meet. The heart is a muscle. It gets sore. It needs rest sometimes. It also needs exercise in giving all the love you have and receiving the love around you. Dont close it off; dont let your heart or empathy muscles atrophy. Maybe working through blues now will turn our moons as gold as these records again.

Elvis TCB motto had an encore TLC piece. Ill need to add to that tattoo. Give yourselves and others tender loving care. Grief doesnt make you a broken bird that will never fly again. It will make your wings stronger and heart more compassionate. You are not the darkness you endured. You are the light that refused to surrender. John Mark Green. And as director and screenwriter Cameron Crowe wrote in the movie Almost Famous, (2000) if you ever get lonely, just go to the record store and visit your friends. Ill meet you there.

Ashley E. Hart is an attorney, licensed social worker and a committee member and volunteer of JLAP and serves the legal community with her faithful therapy dog, the Honorable K9, Judge. Opinions expressed are those of the author.

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